Be A Master Receiver

Jeanna Gabellini
My grandmother was incredibly dear to me. I loved to take her to do things she wouldn't treat herself to experiencing and whatever else I could do to make her life easier. But I have to tell you, she made it hard. She was not good at receiving with joy. She tried to pay me back for whatever money I'd spend, even if I picked her up a carton of milk. I used to get frustrated and eventually I just learned to laugh. I knew it was her belief of her own worthiness, stubbornness and pride.
Grandma Frances also had this habit of feeling guilty when someone went out of their way for her. Now, none of her reactions to receiving love, assistance and money did her any good. In fact, it stopped more abundance from coming her way. She was grateful and resistant at the same to time to receiving from other people. She was also the same person who would complain if her family didn't visit her enough. Ah, the contrast!
I have a little bit of my grandmother's emotional response to receiving inside of me. In the last two weeks I've had two beautiful parties thrown for me in honor of my baby that is due on Labor Day, Sept. 1, 2008 (pretty funny, huh? Labor Day!) . I felt a bit odd that the hosts of the parties, Eva Gregory and my Godmother, we're going to all of this effort and expense on my behalf. I was thrilled with being the guest of honor and at the same time guilty for receiving their generosity. That didn't feel good!
I thought I was good at receiving before this last month. But I discovered I had conditional receiving skills. I'm cool if you want to buy me dinner, give me amazing service at a great price or for free, give me coaching or consulting or help me move. But if someone wants to spend more than a certain amount of money or time on me, I get a bit uncomfortable. I had to figure out what that was about because it didn't feel good and I knew it was putting a kink in my line of prosperity.
It became clear that there were two reasons I wasn't at ease with receiving abundantly from others. The first is that I was afraid they might think I wasn't grateful and think ill of me. Secondly, they might resent all the effort they were putting forth and think ill of me. Bottom line: fear of rejection. Oh my! Me?! Yep.
Generally when someone is talking about attraction principles and receiving, they mean being in an allowing state. You are expecting to have your intentions met and relaxing into that truth. When you are in "receiving mode" you will feel aligned with well being and knowing that you are worthy of ALL good things that come your way. You will take responsibility for attracting both the positive and negative experiences in your life.
If I attract all that comes to me, then I attracte people wanting to celebrate me and my blessed event. I can accept the abundance and enjoy it fully knowing I am worthy. This opens me up to more good stuff. Bring it on, Universe!
Inquiry: Are there places in your life where you can open up more fully to receiving from others? How much generosity can you stand? How much are you willing to let people assist you?
(C) 2008 MasterPeace Coaching
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A WHOLE NEW OUTLOOK IN AN INSTANT

Article written by
Eva Gregory, CPCC
Happiness is often thought of as a state of mind. This assumption is both right and wrong. It is right because when you are happy, you usually have happy thoughts in you mind. You have a positive outlook and your mood is generally elevated. Your outlook on life is one of hope and abundance.
I started by saying the assumption that happiness is a state of mind is both right and wrong. How can it be wrong? If it were just a state of mind, you should be able to will yourself happy at anytime? You should be able to go through life with an eternal smile upon your face, just by willing yourself to be that way. Logically, this does not make sense.
When you have some tragedy befall you in life, you will feel emotions such as sadness, despair, fear or anger. It is not possible to just feel happy. Have you ever heard someone say, Stop being depressed, just be happy. So while, happiness is part of the equation, it is not the whole equation. There must be something more.
What I propose is that happiness is a state of BEING. This has to do with perception. You mind constantly gathers information about it environment through your physical senses. Your perception of sight does not exist in your eye it exists in your mind. Your brain takes electrical impulses and translates them to sensory information.
The next thing that your mind does is evaluate that information. Is it a good sensation? A bad sensation? Does the smell of cookies unlock a memory of childhood? It is our perceptions of our environment that elicit certain emotions. These perceptions are unique to the individual.
For instance, suppose the smell of cookies makes you think of home and the holidays. It can be a positive emotion such as happiness that can occur. But let us suppose that it reminds you of your grandmother, who recently passed away. The same sensation can create a feeling of loss and sadness.
If you can change your perception of the world into a positive one, then you can unlock sustaining happiness. Sure, there are moments in life that do not make us happy. If you exist in a state of happiness, other emotions such as sadness will not be so deep and enduring. You will return to your state of happiness much quicker if you cultivate it.
As I am writing this, I am reminded of the monks in Tibet. They spend their entire life, living in a state of happiness and contentment. When you see pictures of the Dali Llama he is usually smiling. If you know anything about the situation in China right now, there are plenty of things for the monks to be afraid of, yet they pray and continue in a state of happiness.
For most of us, meditating and praying all day may not be possible, however when you have moments that can be filled with these things, then you shift towards enduring happiness can occur. Take a few moments each day and think about all the things that you are thankful for. Hold these images in your mind and bask in their glow. Even as the images fade, the feeling will continue to exist in your heart.
(C) 2008 Leading Edge Coaching
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