Here are 3 standards that each one of us as individuals that are in control of our actions should strive to perform.
Moral Code #1: Be a Person of Your Word
When you make promises and then break them, that action defines you as unreliable. As a successful being, you want other’s to rely on your product, intelligence and most importantly, you. If you need to make a commitment, be sure it is realistic and if tentative, communicate the information to the other people involved. You want to build trust, not demolish it.
Moral Code #2: Be Punctual
Whether you are an employer or an employee, understand the value of someone’s time. As we said earlier, you are busy and so is everyone else. When you are late it sends a message that you disvalue the other person.
It also says that you are selfish and inconsiderate of other people’s time. This detracts from the primary goal.
Moral Code #3: Be Honest
Speak and communicate from honesty. Misleading others, no matter how insignificant the ‘white lie’ may be still carries into your daily actions. If you don’t get caught, YOU still know that you lied. That never leaves you. The dishonesty and negativity linger. It eventually, snowballs. Instead, allow honesty to snowball into a trustworthy person, one that people count on.
Thursday, March 20, 2008
Monday, March 17, 2008
It's OK to Say NO Sometimes
The below article is something that I believe would be of great benefit to all readers.
So many of us are over extended, but we need to remind ourselves that there are only 24 hours a day, 168 hours a week. If you sleep the recommended 8 hours a night, you're left with 112 hours in a week.Imagine if you work a 40 hour week--you are down to 72 hours a week. Okay, now factor everything else into those 72 hours. At some point you need to make a judgment call and realize you can't do everything all the time, or you will burn yourself out.Saying 'No' is an art form. There are many reasons why we have so much trouble saying it, even if it's in our best interest to do so. Some of the reasons include a) we don't want to hurt the other person's feelings, b) we don't want them to think negative thoughts such as we're being unkind or c) we avoid it in order to try to avoid confrontation. Many of us lack daily refusal skills. 'No' may be a mere two letters--but it is a powerful word.
1. What's or who’s at the top of your list? The starting point for deciding to retake your time is to make and set your priorities. Write down what is most important to you. Remember to include yourself and your health on the list. You can't care for others if you're not feeling well. It is often hard for most of us to be honest with ourselves. Display your list on a bulletin board, wipe board, your computer or in your journal-- anywhere as long as you will look at it often. Make sure your list includes those who need and deserve your time.
2. Take time for yourself everyday. You are important and YOU deserve to take priority on your to-do list. Make sure you give yourself some free time to pamper yourself, just relax, or work on a hobby or craft--however you like to relax and decompress. Include rewards after completing tasks. Saying 'no' is not selfish. Plus, it may allow you the time to pursue new hobbies and interests. Saying 'no' can be very good for you and your well being.
3. Be brief, direct, and honest. Do not make excuses. People respect honesty. Be fair, and most of all remember to be fair to you. Treat yourself right and you can't help but treat others right too. If you need to use humor to lighten the 'no', do it!
So many of us are over extended, but we need to remind ourselves that there are only 24 hours a day, 168 hours a week. If you sleep the recommended 8 hours a night, you're left with 112 hours in a week.Imagine if you work a 40 hour week--you are down to 72 hours a week. Okay, now factor everything else into those 72 hours. At some point you need to make a judgment call and realize you can't do everything all the time, or you will burn yourself out.Saying 'No' is an art form. There are many reasons why we have so much trouble saying it, even if it's in our best interest to do so. Some of the reasons include a) we don't want to hurt the other person's feelings, b) we don't want them to think negative thoughts such as we're being unkind or c) we avoid it in order to try to avoid confrontation. Many of us lack daily refusal skills. 'No' may be a mere two letters--but it is a powerful word.
1. What's or who’s at the top of your list? The starting point for deciding to retake your time is to make and set your priorities. Write down what is most important to you. Remember to include yourself and your health on the list. You can't care for others if you're not feeling well. It is often hard for most of us to be honest with ourselves. Display your list on a bulletin board, wipe board, your computer or in your journal-- anywhere as long as you will look at it often. Make sure your list includes those who need and deserve your time.
2. Take time for yourself everyday. You are important and YOU deserve to take priority on your to-do list. Make sure you give yourself some free time to pamper yourself, just relax, or work on a hobby or craft--however you like to relax and decompress. Include rewards after completing tasks. Saying 'no' is not selfish. Plus, it may allow you the time to pursue new hobbies and interests. Saying 'no' can be very good for you and your well being.
3. Be brief, direct, and honest. Do not make excuses. People respect honesty. Be fair, and most of all remember to be fair to you. Treat yourself right and you can't help but treat others right too. If you need to use humor to lighten the 'no', do it!
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